The Self Leadership class today
was a unique exercise as it brought our cohort closer to each other as one
community. Each one appeared in a state of trance after the exercise of
EMOTIONAL CATHARSIS got over. We will come to that exercise in detail but
before that it is important to know what led to that exercise.
Anil Sachdeva Sir started with a
general notion that it is a basic human tendency to see what is wrong and to
crib about that. Only few saints have the power to see the goodness in all even
in a dacoit. Certainly normal human mind has the natural tendency to crib. We
start with cribbing and it gives some sort of satisfaction but a lot of it can
actually lead to depression. There are various kinds of depressions too in
which BIPOLAR DEPRESSION is something in which a person feels violent at on
point and happy at another point. It all happens since human mind has a
flipside to its good side.
We also came to know that there
are three states of being which are unconscious, sub-conscious and conscious level.
Most of the sadness that exist comes from UNSTATED EMOTIONAL EXPECTATIONS.
These expectations create an URGE and we feel that things are out of our
control. Though these EXPECTATIONS lead to sadness mainly due to GUILT or
REGRET which one starts having. Most of
the great leaders are not being able to reach their VISION is due to emotional
expectations which they are enslaved to.
Here is when Emotional Catharsis
comes as a tool to get rid of something that is bothering and to clean up all
the pent up emotions by sharing it with people who can confide. It is an
important way to lead your mind. We started Emotional Catharsis in our cohort
with three rules that we will not JUDGE anyone, will listen patiently, will
keep the confidentiality inside the class. We know we all have a bright and a
dark side so it was time to reveal the darker side. It was also an exercise to
built a community which is Community in Unity.
The process started with we
forming a small circle where Anil Sir looked at each one and prayed though I
thought it was some sort of Hypnotism J
The circle created a vibration of energy where each one of us was ready to
reveal our saddest part. First one to reveal was Anil Sir himself so that the
process starts as he showed that being a leader even he is vulnerable. Anil Sir’s
confessions were direct from heart and it touched us all and few of us already
started crying. We were in groups of 5 sitting around a circular table. Each
ones story of their confessions was very different and touchy. Be it boy or
girl we all related with the stories in someway and had tears in our eyes. Like
happiness even sadness is contagious as observed by Shweta later. In those
moments of confessions we hardly thought about the outside world but were happy
in the small world around the table. Lot of trust, emotions, sharing happened.
All that sadness we offered to the fire of the candle which was lit infront of
us. Those moments of revelation will be cherished by me forever. THAT TABLE AND
ITS MEMBERS ARE SPECIAL TO ME NOW.
Learning from this whole exercise
is that most of the sadness that one has is due to some kind of loss where one
could have done something but one did not or was unable to. It was at times due
to lack of efforts and at time due to situations beyond ones control. So no
matter what happened and what is happening there is always HOPE a bright Hope
to FIGHBACK and return to your brighter side. No matter how bad it all went? how
many times you failed? But there is a place where you can always go and be what
you really are and that place is YOUR OWN FAMILY. Indian Family tradition is why our society is
so resilient as we used to have these communities where we shared in family. So
let us spread this word to the entire world to learn this from India so that
lots of stress, depression and sadness can find no place. Let us lead the world
with the light to brighten up your family life for peace and harmony.
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